One really is the loneliest number, no matter what your age. Once thought of as affecting primarily the elderly, loneliness is a growing problem in America.
The U.S. Census Bureau reports that more than 10 million Americans 65 or older live alone. Even as many remain independent and active, there are a growing number of seniors that feel isolated and lonely. According to a recent American Sociological Review report, the average American has only two close friends in whom they would confide on important matters. In addition, the U.S. Census reveals that one out of four households (27.2 percent) consists of just one person. These factors have contributed to a growing number of Americans who experience social isolation or loneliness.
"People that lack a solid social network of family and friends or have few social skills to develop relationships are more likely to experience loneliness and in turn isolation," says Liz Drew, national executive director of Little Brothers - Friends of the Elderly. "This is especially true with our elderly friends who are often faced with little or no family in the area, friends who have passed away or health conditions that restrict them from getting around."
Loneliness can mean different things to different people, but in all cases it is a situation that can be improved through positive intervention. Whether you know someone who is experiencing loneliness or would like to make efforts in your own life to promote a better sense of belonging for yourself, here are a few suggestions:
1. Make an "appointment" with a family member or friend to talk weekly. If you set aside a designated time, you're more likely to make it a part of your regular routine and something to look forward to. It's also a great way to check in on someone and their well being.
2. Look for community activities and organized groups that appeal to your interests, hobbies and age group. For instance, civic organizations, service groups, and religious services provide an opportunity to meet new people that have common interests and are from your area. For older Americans, Little Brothers - Friends of the Elderly is a national network of non-profit organizations that provides social services, home visits, social gatherings and companionship to those who are lonely and isolated.
3. Introduce yourself to neighbors and people you come in contact with on frequent errands, walks or other interactions. Don't be afraid to say "hello" to someone as it can put a smile on your face and the faces of others around you.
4. Whether you are working or retired, think of the skills and knowledge you can provide to others in your community. Volunteer your time at local schools, park districts, libraries or other community facilities and you will walk away feeling more fulfilled and making new friends of different ages.
5. Remember that it is not the quantity of relationships you have, but the quality that counts. When you are socializing with others, take the time to get to know the person you are with and develop a more trusting relationship. For example, there is a matched volunteer program with Little Brothers - Friends of the Elderly that connects seniors with a "friend" that visits them on a regular basis and develops a longstanding relationship. All services are offered to the elderly at no charge.
To learn more about how to relieve loneliness and isolation among the elderly, call Little Brothers - Friends of the Elderly at (312) 786-1032.
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February, 13 2007
